Mama Rika's Random Tips & Tricks

People are frequently asking me "how do you manage to...fill-in-the-blank". So, I thought I would share some things I do. Some of the things might sound completely silly, but sometimes I come up with some simple but effective strategies. I'll keep throwing out ideas via posts like this on how I do different things and perhaps you will find one or two things that will be of use to you. :)

1. Turn of the day. When my oldest three children were small, there got to be regular squabbles about whose turn it was to pick a video, help with dishes, sit by Mom, etc. I resolved this issue completely by beginning turn of the day. Each child gets a turn of the day. If it is that child's turn of the day, anytime there is any question about whose turn it is to do something, we just ask whose turn of the day it is and that child gets to choose.

For example, on Monday it would be Patchy's turn of the day, Tuesday it would be Nan and Wednesday it would be Bub. When Thursday comes around, we start back at the beginning. So, on Monday, if the kids were going to play a game together and couldn't decide on the game to play, they would have to play what Patchy wanted because it was his turn of the day.

This system cut down on tons of problems. Often, the kids were very happy that it was their turn of the day, but occasionally they had to do something they didn't want to do because it was their turn. It works both directions.

2. Finely grated zucchini. You can put finely grated zucchini, apples, onions and other random fruits and veggies in just about anything you cook and the kids never notice. It is a great trick for getting extra nutrients in the kids without fuss. My kids are pretty good eaters anyway, but it never hurts to throw in more good stuff. Make sure to use finely grated or pureed and not coarsely grated. They WILL spot those! Zucchini is great because it has such a mild flavor. You can put quite a bit of it in without flavoring the sauce a distinct flavor.

3. Leave bags in the freezer. Yeah, I know that sounds just plain weird. And it is. But it works for me. I like to freeze things for later. Usually the things I freeze (like Featherlight Wholegrain Wheat Waffles that you can find the recipe for in this post) don't last all that long. I label the bag with the contents, put the bag in the freezer and hope for it to last for months. When we polish off the remains a week later, I just put the labeled bag back in the freezer on the appropriate shelf. Then, when I make more, I just grab that empty bag and refill it. Bags don't take up much room in the freezer and this way I get lots of uses out of that one gallon size zippy bag rather than just one. As an added bonus, I don't have to try to find a permanent marker to relabel another bag!

4. Buy first, plan later. This one I suppose sounds like I have taken leave of my senses. But it, too, works well for me. Here's the way I do this. Each member of my large family has an unusually incredible ability to pack away more food than their size would indicate. In addition to this, they all have very fast metabolisms. This means that I have to maximize the amount of food I buy while trying to minimize the amount of dollars I spend. I always buy what's on sale first and then plan out daily/weekly/monthly menus.

Most people try to figure out their menu plans for the week first and then go buy just what is on their list. The trouble for me with this method is that I might feel like making a homemade lasagna and get to the store and find that the price for the pasta, cheeses and sauce that I need to make it are at an all time high price wise. If I go ahead and purchase those items to stick with my grocery list, then I might have less money to spend stocking up on the really good deal the store was offering on peanut butter and canned green beans.

5. Read or sleep rule. When it is bedtime at our house, we have always had the read or sleep rule once you have been told it is bedtime. This makes it so that if little ones really aren't tired, they have something to do quietly until they are ready for sleep, rather than demanding that they sleep. It also has helped instill a love of reading in my children. The drawbacks are that sometimes they keep reading and reading and reading and reading...

6. Your taste buds haven't grown up yet. I never say a child doesn't like this food or that food. Our rules always require tasting an item presented to you. When the child has tasted the item, I thank them for tasting. If they were less than impressed with it, I just remind them that it is okay, it is simply that "your taste buds haven't grown up yet." You'll like it as you get older. Sometimes it takes 2 tries before they like the food, sometimes it will take 100. But I always emphasize the fact that it isn't that they don't like the item, it is young taste buds. This method has worked over and over and over again. But, it isn't fool proof. Everyone has different preferences. Because of this, we also have trick #9.

A funny story to go along with this happened with Peanut. All my kids have really loved pickles. Peanut is my 5th child and he really, really wanted to like pickles because everyone else did. Each time we brought the pickle jar out, he would try one. He would put it in his mouth, his eyes would water and he would have a tortured expression on his face. I would ask him what he thought and he would tell me, "It's good." He did this so many times and every time, the expression on his face would be the same. I finally took pity on him and just told him that it was okay not to like pickles. He could choose to not like pickles. I think he was 4 or 5 at the time. He has been a non-pickle eater ever since. He is 11 now.

7. Sign rotations. This is my way of trying to plug messages into my kid's brains that don't come from the sound of my voice. If I find a quote or a scripture that is applicable to something a child is going through, or that upholds a value I am trying to instill in my children, I will write it on a post-it, index card, or larger paper and tape it up. I put things on the fridge, bathroom mirrors, by light switches, in the hallway or anywhere that the kids might happen to read it. I change these out from time to time, always trying to vary the locations because after seeing something around for a while, one tends to forget it is even there! I just think this is a good way to enhance what you are trying to do in other ways.

8. Trades. I started this when my big kids were small. I have always tried to teach my kids to eat in a healthy manner. It was amazing to me how much junkfood they would bring home from church, birthday parties and other events and I needed some way to combat that a bit. My mother had done this somewhat with my younger siblings, so that is where I got the idea. Mom would have a supply of "healthy candy & snacks" that they could trade in their junk food and get better-for-you choices. I added to the idea by not only trying to have healthy things they could eat, but also offering things like stickers, small toys and trinkets. I have to admit that I was much better about keeping this up with my older kids than I have been with my younger kids. I could do better. The kids were really quite good about trading in their things.

9. It is on my list! Everyone in the family gets to have one thing on their "do not eat list". (See also rule 6 above.) Personally, I hate peas. Canned peas are the worst. If I feel I can not politely decline a serving of peas, I will swallow them whole rather than bite into them. Kevin can't stand asparagus. If I am serving something that is on someone's list, they are not required to try it. Everything else, either their taste buds haven't grown up enough yet, or we just haven't found the best way to serve it yet!

See more tips http://www.tammysrecipes.com/node/3211 or http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Canadagirl/ or http://kellythekitchenkop.com/2009/03/your-best-time-saving-nutrition-tip-or-kitchen-tip-real-food-wednesday.html

Mama Rika Knows How to Shop for Teenage Boys!

If you are fond of shopping for clothing while having teenage boys along, please ignore this post.

I happened upon a most delightful way of shopping for teenage boys that allows them to have some say in their choice of apparrel, but doesn't require dragging them around to store after store with you.

Here's what I did. Once I arrived at my favorite shopping destination, I hit the clearance racks first. On this day, I discovered a couple of pairs of shorts in the right size, but had questions as to whether Bub would wear those particular styles. I whipped out my phone and dialed Bub's number.

In the midst of my descriptions, Bub inquired as to whether it would't be easier to just send him a picture of the clothing. Ingenious! Why didn't I think of that? {Kids are much better at figuring out ways to make life easier than moms are.}

With that, I was able to zap over this picture to him. Do you care for this pair?

Or perhaps orange plaid wouldn't be bad? {Did you catch my lovely rhymes?;)} There you have it. Pain free shopping for both mother and teen. Works for me!

{Works for me Wednesday can be found here. }

Mama Rika's Tightwad Tip

People always ask me how I manage to feed/clothe/etc. the large family I have. So, I shall attempt to share a few tips here and there. Many of the things I do to save money have to do with planning ahead for things that might possibly occur.

Here's today's tip.

1. Get a good size container--plastic, cardboard or whatever you can find.
2. Fill it with water bottles that you bought on sale. {Bring your calculator or estimation skills to the grocery store when water is on sale by the case load. I usually don't spend more than 10 cents per bottle.}
3. Place it in your vehicle.
4. When you are out and about, if you forgot to bring water with you or you ran out, you can use your "emergency" water. This beats having to stop and buy a drink where you will inevitably pay more.
5. Next time you buy water bottles, make sure to replace any missing bottles from your "emergency" stash before bringing the case into the house. (No, I don't usually remember this, but it is a good idea.)
6. Train your family to grab water bottles before heading out the door. Then you don't use up all your emergency ones so quickly. Also, if you grab and go, you can have them at just the right temperature. Those frozen ones are sure nice in the summer!

Ta ta for now!